This will be the first of many blogs in a series I will tag UNLEARNING. There are many ways we approach domestic staffing that may seem normal because we have been conditioned by our environment to normalize it. But when what we call “our […]
I am gradually settling for the thought that there are only two pathways to get your ideal domestic staff: It’s either you are paying for them or grooming them. Most employers fall into one of these two pathways. If you are on the paying pathway, […]
“I can hardly keep these domestic staff. They are so lazy. I am a perfectionist and I can’t stand dirt. So it is better for me to send them away than keep complaining over everything they do.” The lie of perfectionism is the lie employers […]
Happy new year and decade mama! I am excited that you are still visiting this site in 2020. That says a lot to me. I hope you are committed to running and structuring your home differently in this new year, such that domestic staff issues […]
Have you ever wondered how come the housekeeping industry has been plagued for so long with dishonest, untruthful and incompetent hands? I mean it shouldn’t be so difficult for agencies to recruit good hands, train them before outsourcing them to people’s homes. Well, if you […]
I have seen and experienced firsthand the stress families go through when trying to make a decision on whom to hire as a maid in this part of the world. The stress stems from concerns surrounding their security, the maid’s qualification and capacity, her ability […]
Can I get you to exercise your mind for a minute? Imagine seeing a vacancy announced for your ultimate dream job. Let’s assume it is as the Personal Assistant to Alhaji Aliko Dangote (Who is the richest man in Africa right now) on Social Responsibilities […]
It took me quite a while to realize that there is an emotional side to housekeeping. The reason you probably do not enjoy doing chores is because you feel there is nothing that directly profits you by doing it except that your house is clean. […]
Above all, the way your employer-maid relationship plays out lies in your court. What you need to constantly remember, which is very helpful is that you are an EMPLOYER. Not a charity organization. Your older maid is not there for omugwo or holiday. She needed a job, you needed a staff and she agreed to earn a salary. You should demand value for your money. The moment you start exhibiting fear, you have given her a pass to act as she pleases.